Archive | December 2013

Insecurities girl

Insecurities ….

There are many many people out there who have insecurities , it is how we deal with them that makes us who we are , and how we cope in the world ,and the people in it .This is getting harder by the day too , as so much has changed ,too much has changed and not for the better .

I myself have a past that had  I let it would have destroyed me years ago , long before  I  ever  got to maturity , to put it mildly it was a past right from hell , with an abusive father , a mother who sat back and let him , to family members who either denied it happening or trying hard to protect me. This also does not count accidents and a deliberate attempt on my life  as a child…

I do know that without my finding God when I was a little girl for sure  I would either be dead ( the most likely thing ) or be in a home somewhere  . Thanks  to my  finding him  I have learned the very hard way ” Do not let the buggers win ”  so I stick to that with all my heart , and it serves me well . At  times it is so very hard to do and  I want to just go hide in a corner , but thanks also to the love  of my husband who is always  with me and supports me it is no longer so difficult ( thanks love  )

It brings with it the question how do others cope with theirs  ? Not everyone is  as lucky as I am and have such love to keep them going , so what do they do ? how do they handle it ? We all need a way to handle it well or it will beat us , and we must not let that happen . So many people feel them so much worse at this time of year , if we know anyone who feels like that we should at least try to help them . Having been there done that myself it was not till I met and fell in love with my husband that  I got a true friend also, who   helps me through these times. After all these years , yes  I still do have times when it rears its ugly head again ,now at least ,and at last  I have the help  I need .

I am sure we all know people like that who maybe just need a little encouragement , a little bit of help, to know they are not alone , and if we do , how do we react  ? Do we help or just leave them to it? There are so many ways to help , if we can in person then great , but sometimes  a friendly e – mail , phone call , tweet , or facebook message , might just help someone out of a black depression. It all starts , usually in childhood , but then can fester like a disease  unless someone helps  , then an insecurity can fester along all too well . Without help it will only get worse , then you have people in homes or too scared to go out in case they have trouble , or too scared  to even answer the door , or the phone , as not knowing who or what is on the other end is too hard to deal with.

So if you are 1 of these people , let me tell you that you are not alone , there is always someone to help, who has been there done that, so please go get help do not let it win. If  I can you can too . To be brutally honest  I never thought  I would live past 20 , yet I did and have children, grand children , even great grandchildren , have travelled all over Australia , half way round the world and back  so if that does not prove that all things are possible then nothing else will ….. please if you need it ..get help ..it is out there …

May I now wish you all a very  Merry Christmas and a happy New  Year , and please forget all the hype and greed ,and remember the real reason for  Christ….mas ….

My Love to all who read this and hope it helps  🙂

 

Mute Button

Mute   Button …

How many things do have today  have mute buttons  ? TV … Radio ..Games .. Tools…? So many things do have a mute button but most of the time we do not use them  but every now and then something comes along like  an annoying advert on TV the most notable , when it comes on we just automatically hit mute..so much better  .. same with radio we turn them off or change channels .I am the fastest finger in the West when it comes to muting the  TV lol.

How much better would it be though if you could mute  other things ? Lets think about this for a minute ,what would it be nice to mute  ?

Barking dogs ..nothing worse than a  dog that will not stop barking ,or a cat the meows all the time , makes you want to kick them sometimes . ..loud cars ..roaring out side up and down the road when you want a little peace and quiet ..makes you want to get a shot gun , those sorts of sounds belong at a race track not up and down a suburban street. With those too the owners think they are so cool and it is all just great, not 1 of them thinks about those who need sleep like night workers  or sick people or babies …these dudes definitely need mute buttons…

What else  now  ? …How about those people who talk at  what anyone else would think of as  yelling   …or those who live on the second  or third floor of unit blocks  and stand down on the ground  in the garden and scream up to the floor they live on , not 1 thought about the fact that the sudden yelling could scare the crap out of someone not expecting it . Not 1 thought about the fact that some people do need to sleep in the day time  if they work nights or odd hours , do we all have to work in times and sleep in times that suit them ? …

Then there are the kids who scream and yell and parents do nothing to stop them  , again not 1 single thought about what that amount of noise could be doing to someone else ,no thought of the pain that it may cause …before you say it let me  I know kids need to play  and  let off steam but that is not what I mean here .. Say you go to a club or a pub or a restaurant  or to the theatre or pictures  or museum  , you get the idea and all you hear is screaming kids because the parents just do not give a dam  about anyone else , and do nothing to stop them.

How about  mowers and hedge trimmers and chainsaws  and garden vacs ….man those things are all so loud  , so wish they could be muted  , usually when they start they go on for hours ( or it seems like hours ) yes , yes ,  I know it has to be done but would be so much nicer if it could be muted . Also what about the bin men ..lol.. can not leave them out can we  ? once a week every week at  4.45 am  * bang * crash * wallop * squeak *   up one side of the road then down the other ..again I know it has to be but boy I sure wish it could be muted , can never get back to sleep after..

Another  thing be nice to mute are the planes  and the helicopters that are constantly going over  and the trains  mainly the goods trains  can be very noisy , again necessary but can be oh so noisy  at times…

So what would you like to mute  ?  lol be nice now  …

lol 🙂