To assume as the saying goes is to make an ass out of you and me …
Yet how many of us assume this or that in our every day life , and how many times to we find out how wrong we are ? Too often we jump to the conclusion that we are right about this that and the other only to find out later we were wrong . This also applies to the way we look at people , we assume rightly or wrongly that the way they look to us , is how they are inside . They look happy , well dressed , on top of the world . They might be laughing , joking , being the life of the party , yet inside they are a total wreck. This has applied to me more times than I care to admit , but I have my faith in God to keep me going , and it hasn’t let me down yet .
Unfortunately not every one can or will have this faith so when they get to this point they have nothing left to hang on to . Yes here I am talking now about Robin Williams a man who did have it all , wife, children , home , a man loved by millions world wide , but to him inside himself there was nothing , no one , no one to help him through the dark times . He did not even have faith in his wife or family that they could help him see his way through , that things would really be ok . He just could not see through the darkness that he lived in , the harder he tried the harder it was , been there myself as I said , but have had my faith to bring me out the other side .
It just goes to show that what we assume is correct is quite often not right at all , as in the case of Robin Williams . He had as I said everything he wanted or needed , except for the feeling that life was worth living , to him the fight was not worth it . It does not matter what we have or do not have , if life does not seem worth it then nothing else matters , we will not see the good in it . That good may be every where but anyone in that dark place cant see it. I say can not and mean that , most people again assume that they do not want to see it .This is so far from the truth as to be laughable , as someone in such a dark place is blinded to what ever is good in the world, it is not will not see it is can not see.
So next time you look at someone do not just assume by the way they look that you know all about them because you do not. You do not see into the darkness that they or someone else has put around them so can not just assume anything . It may not even be their own fault they are in this place , they could have been forced there by abuse and or beatings from some others who should never have done it . Once more assuming you can know or tell about people just by looking or meeting them one or two times is just wrong on every level. No one ever knows , really knows how people get to these dark places , only that they are there , and there is often no way out .
All the people around Robin Williams thought they knew , because they knew he was going to rehab , he was seeming to be getting on top of it , he seemed to be ok . Seeming to be ok , seeming to do the right things by all around him he fooled them all , and in so doing made the time and place when he could do the unthinkable and he did. In his mind all the things he was doing all the things he was saying , other were saying was just not enough to penetrate to that blackness he was living with . For him there was no other way out .
So before you get to assuming anything about anyone put yourself in their shoes, try to see how it looks to them , if you really want to help . The easiest way to even try a little to understand those black places , go into a room , sit down , turn off the lights, then sit there in the dark, with no sounds, nothing to be seen , that will give you a very small idea of what it is like to live like that 24/7. To live in a world that may not have been of your doing , but even so your there and nothing works to make it better . No matter who does or does not help the darkness is too strong.
I usually put a joke here but not this time , in tribute to Robin Williams I will say this, please , please if you have this sort of darkness , ask for help .there are so many people out there who would just love to help . I found help and so can you , so please let someone turn on some light for you , it can be done , please , please believe me on this …