Chivalry …. It seems chivalry is not dead yet , well not entirely anyway , was very surprised the other week when hubby and I were out house hunting ( no we didn’t catch any ) that when we had need to get on public transport , every time I got on someone and mostly male if I remember rightly got up and gave me a seat . It has been a very long time since this happened so as you can imagine I was quite shocked by this and also very very pleased as I had by this time come to the conclusion that it was well dead and buried . It was a real relief to me too as by the time we boarded each time , my pain levels were so high I wanted to scream so being able to sit down just then was wonderful it made a huge difference to me , made all the travelling about we were doing that little bit easier.
As no doubt most of you know now that mostly people just look to themselves and no one else , they are so tied up in themselves that they neither see nor care about anyone else. Mostly these days heads are in phones or they just do not notice if anyone needs a helping hand , so wrapped up in what they are doing that the are blind to the world around them . This is why so many get killed because they are virtually blind and deaf to the world around them , so sure that they are all that matters and the rest of the world can go and get lost . Must come as a huge shock to them then when they get run over or fall off a building or some such thing so blind to their surroundings have they become these days and it is just so very sad . Next time you go out just have a look at people walking about and see if you can see any actually watching what is going on around them.
So you can imagine my complete surprise when first 1 then another gave me their seat on that week we were travelling so much and I was so in need of being able to sit for a while , it has been so long since it had happened that i just loved it , sure made things just that little bit better . We need sometimes to be able to see things like this happen to keep our hopes up that someday maybe that people will learn to be nice to each other again and will go back to the old ways of helping out our fellow people it would be great . Each and every time too it was with a lovely smile that the seats were offered , which also made me feel that bit better no one seems to smile at anyone anymore they all seem to be so worn down with how their lives are going it is such a shame when you think about it. Makes you wonder what goes on in their worlds that makes them so introspective , so self absorbed , that they see almost nothing else , are their lives so stressful that they just shut themselves away in their own little cocoons so they can handle what life is dishing out to them ?
I know only too well how it can be , so much to do , so little time it seems to get anything done so it is all rush rush rush no time to stop and think about anything , they might just change their ways if they actually had time to stop and think . Society has them going almost 24/7 now , you have to rush to work , to shop , to do anything , gone are the days when you could just take your time and enjoy what you are doing , or take any time off to enjoy the scenery , just no time anymore for any of the fun things in life . Wake up , get ready , go to work, come home , have dinner , go to bed , repeat adinfinitum , what sort of a life is that ? What must it do to the way we think about ourselves and everyone around us ? Again I ask how have we let this happen to our society and our lives ?
So next time also you go out keep watching and if you see a way to help someone then do it , it might be just what they need too to make their day , to brighten up their day just that little bit as it did for me . Try to watch out and try to not let ourselves become the people we hate the most , the ones that bang into us because we are not in their little world so cannot see us , we are in danger of becoming like that if we don’t watch out and really too many are like that now for us to do the same when we know how to stop being like that . All we need is just a little compassion and a little caring now and then for others it could mean the world to them , and to us too i the long run as it all passes along . They call it ” pay it forward ” so every time we help someone else we are in effect helping ourselves somewhere further down the line , it all adds up ad in the end makes us feel better too .
If I knew everything I didn’t know, I would know everything I don’t know so in that case I would know a lot about nothing.