Archive | June 2018

How Not To

How not  to … To murder your hubby when all of a sudden he is under your feet all the time , or never there when you want him etc etc etc … This is the time  when something you did not expect to happen does  and all of a sudden  he has no job and is there with you now almost 24/7 . Laugh if you want to but after the shock wears off and you  start the long process of looking for work for him  , once that is started and you have that bit set up then you get to the everyday bit of just living  and you suddenly  wake up to the  fact/problem that he is there all the time doing things you may or may not want done or conversely not doing what you want done ..or

How not to … Right now there have been times when it has taken all my strength and love for him not to murder him when  he does /does not  do what we need doing or what we want to do …lol still with me here  ? Sometimes he goes off to an appointment  and says yes dear I will keep in touch , I will  phone you to let you know  what happened , I will stop you from worrying about me , but does he  ?? No  he does not and when he finally shows up all you want to do is kill him  because you spent all that time  worrying  and he just did not keep in touch. It is not as if it is a major thing you are asking  is it? All you want to know is he safe , then when you find out he is ,your first  impulse is to kill him lol …grrrr  men never learn ..and they wonder why  we get mad at them …after all his idea of not being away or outside for that matter is  is so different to mine it is asif he has no idea of how time flies ….grrrrrr

How not to  murder them when  you may be watching something on  TV  and they come in and either change channels without asking or talk all the time so you can’t hear the program anyway !! Once again even though you love them so much  all you want is  to kill them  , they do it not because they don’t love you but because  they just don’t think , but then again when did men ever stop to think? Another time you are doing the washing , you ask them if they have any washing that needs doing they either say no or just don’t answer so you go ahead and do the washing  only to find out later  there on the floor is a pair of undies and some sox !! grrrrr…lol …it gets harder all the time not want to  so….Have a cup of coffee  try to relax , put all thoughts of murder behind  you , after all remember you love him ….or you are supposed to ..and you did marry him ..

How not to when you may be out somewhere and all of a sudden he has  a call and  he is off leaving you to get home when you can , alright this is rare but it has happened  and he really  did not mean it but it is hard to put up with . How not to when you have had a good meal and there is a pile of dishes and guess who makes himself  scarce ?? lol .. Give you 1 guess he is not to be found anywhere  and you get stuck with a ton of dishes  and you have already cooked the meal and done all the prep. To be fair though he does love cooking and does a fair bit  , but in so doing  the mess is piled high when  I have to do the clean up after , just as well he does cook very well and is good  at it . Also he is slowly learning to keep the mess to a minimum  and not leave it so spread out all over the kitchen , lol, but it has taken a while to teach him this , he is lucky I love him. lol

How not to ….Now this is the hardest thing lol, when you ask him to do something and he gladly says yes dear no worries  will get on to that , after reminding him at least 6 times  and it is still not done , this is the time you really, really want to kill him , he has got to be the king of the procrastinators !! arrrgghh ! lol  This is my biggest  problem with him some times it can take  days to get something  done, for 1 reason or another he just does not get the job he so gladly said yes to doing   for days and it drives me nuts , lol yes  I know  I am nuts anyway but as  I married him I have to put up with it dammit Why is there no expiry date ? lol he is so glad there is none or I just might have returned him , lol asif  I would do that I do love him but at times it just gets harder , so fingers crossed he gets a job sooner rather than later before I do forget how much  I love him. lol

How not to …is to remember exactly that , how much  I love him  , how perfectly we fit together as a couple , how we do that thing we all laugh at , the finishing each other’s sentences  bit , lol yes we do that all the time , that is how well we work together , it is remembering all this that really how  I do not … * sigh * lol …


If random does what random is and random is what random does …what does random do?

Told my husband I would cook his favourite meal tomorrow. Jokes on him as tomorrow never comes.



Why Copy ?

Why copy  ? … Why do people these days have to copy everything they see  ? Why do they have to copy everything they do ?  Have you noticed that when a new thing , for example is advertised   people just run to get it  and then soon after that  you see a copy , a copy that is different by just a little bit so as not to be against the copyright laws . Then there will be a new fashion accessory  or a new jewelry  design  , or maybe a new style in cars or a new type of house , or something , anything it does not really matter what it takes no time at all seemingly for a copy  to appear  , usually a  little bit cheaper  than the original  item was at the start . Have seen this sort of thing so often it makes me wonder   how people get the copies  done so quick    have they got spies or something  ?

Why copy  ? Why do they feel the need to copy  and not make their own ? Really  makes me wonder if original ideas are getting extinct  because there are just so many copies of so many things  and the speed at which the copies appear is amazing , love to know how the companies that do these copies get them out so quick . Also makes me wonder why ? Can’t they do anything for themselves  anymore or is it just too much trouble to try and think for themselves ?  The people who come up with the original ideas must be very  upset  to see their invention being copied and then sold at a much cheaper price , they have put so much time , effort , money into it , finally get it out there only to have at about what seems like 5 mins. later  there is a copy .

Why copy ? I know why just take a  look at the fashion ,make up , jewelry, shoes , bags, etc you get the idea they make so much money out of copies that they now have no scruples  at all and run ff copies as soon as they can . Personally I have seen so many dresses for example  that all look the same but for maybe 1 or 2 things  just enough differences  so it cannot be called a copy and not breach the copyright act . Makes you wonder really how many other things that we buy are copies doesn’t it ? Thinking that a lot of things that are copies are so well done that you the shopper cannot tell without expert help , copies have not got the same return value as originals so anyone making a copy  has to make it just right or get caught out, that does happen but not enough to stop the copies unfortunately so it goes on.

Why copy ? Why do people see someone  wearing something and right away think I must have that ,I must have that exact thing  ? When you go out you see so many people wearing the same things  , if you just walk and look you can see so many types of the same thing  be it clothing or shoes or carry bags or jewelry , I notice it time and again . What makes people act like sheep and just flock to things like  this just because someone else has it  ? Have people lost the ability as well to be original , or is it just sheer laziness or is it that people now just don’t have the time anymore  in this hectic lifestyle we now have ? To me I would rather have something just because  I need it  not because everyone  else has them , need rather that copy is the only reason I get anything .

Why copy ? This need as it seems to be to copy almost everything that others do is amazing , it almost seems like it has become part of people’s  DNA  now , see something , must have it , no originality  no thinking for themselves anymore , just follow the crowd , copy what they do stay in the flock , I just find it amazing. I am guessing that is why even in the armies all over the world  they all have basically the same sort of weapons  there really is not a lot of difference  but  there also maybe 1 or 2 others we have not seen yet but given time we will the way the world is heading now , lots of sheep doing what they are told . Why copy  ? To get the best we can for ourselves without having to think for ourselves  , that is altogether too much work now it seems . We really need to start learning to think for ourselves sooner rather than later  if we do not want all these copies  to rule us , we need to be ourselves not just sheep happy to copy .


Getting out of bed in the morning ruins my whole day….

Get your mind out of the gutter. It’s blocking my view….

I am so grumpy I am not even talking to myself…!😬😬😬😬😬


Medication  I am guessing now that there are very few people  who are not on some sort of medication , and like it or not most of us need some at some point in their lives , seems there is always a need  for medication  for something or other we can’t seem to get away from it . Medication is for the most  part good for us and it offers relief for many problems  , let us face it there are a lot  of people who would not even be alive today without good medication . Many lives also are made a lot better for having a way to relieve symptoms of things that maybe cannot be healed as they may well be hereditary  so there is no way other than medication to make their lives a lot easier . Medication  on the whole then is a very good thing and there are more and more being  made to help more and more people  they are always researching always looking for cures for things like cancer  etc.  and that is a good thing they are dedicated people only wanting to help.

Medication then is mostly a very good thing , but my beef is with the way it is marketed , yes this is a bit of a rant but I think it needs saying , they need to be made to put all the things on the labels  that can cause side effects ,  and  I mean all of them not just the ones they think won’t be too hard and stop people from buying them. The reason I say this is because  I recently tried yet 1 more thing to try and ease my pain  and maybe help with the fluid retention , as I know  I am allergic to some things  I  have become an avid label reader  so when I got these you can bet I thought they were safe for me . Imagine my shock when I started to feel a bit off  and the only thing that was different was the new pills  I had bought  from the chemist . I had not changed anything else in my diet or anything so it was the only thing different .

So I did what I always do and   had another read to be sure  I had not missed anything on the label , confirmed that I had not and then thought ok now I do further research  to see what was not on the label. My 1st horror was in finding out that had  I kept taking them I might well have gone blind as they affect eye pressure , and as  I have glaucoma this was devastating  this was just but the 1st shock , next 1 was that it could cause heart attack , or stroke or if I was diabetic it could be a disaster , now you can see why I was so angry any 1 or all of those things are terrible on their own but to not even  mention  them on the label to me is  just wrong , and it was only my checking it out properly  because I felt a bit off that led me to this discovery and of course stopping the pills immediately. Who knows just what would have happened to me had  I just kept on with them thinking it would be ok it was just my body getting used to them .

Marketing today is so in your face , so ” you must have these ”  that most people just accept it and go get them , and because life today is so fast and furious  we just have not got the time to be checking every little thing . Just a cursory  glance at a label and off we go not time for anything more . Time after time this proves to be true so we get lulled into a false sense of security and just go to a chemist and get pills  and take them . We get so used  the advertising  we just believe it and use them , they keep on telling us how good the pills are and how much we need them . What really, really needs to happen is that all medication has to be labelled correctly  so things like  being caught out  with pills you should not be taking cannot happen again , someone needs to fix this before more people get caught out and maybe die or worse .

Medication ..rant over but I think it all needed to be said if only to make more people aware that they really need to read labels and do more research so they do not have any trouble . I was lucky this time  as I always check  and it did not take me long to realise  that I had to stop them and check up on them . Thankfully all is well now but it will be a long time before  I try any more pills that is for sure 100% .

I ate my salad without dressing because I didn’t have time to put on clothes…


Have you tried the new vodka diet. I’ve lost three days already…


I have a new rule: No one is allowed to talk to me for 24 hours after I wake up….

You Can Never Really Know

You can never really know how the other half lives unless you go there and see for yourself, if you live in a place for a long time  or even a short time for that matter  you get to know how that place works and what  it looks like . You have the look and the nature of that place and its people  it gets stuck in your mind  and you are so very sure almost 100%  that you will always know it even if you leave it for a long time or a little  while . When we do decide to leave this place  even for a little while  you go just knowing in your mind that nothing will change no matter how long or short a time  you are away , so sure are you that you do not even consider taking any photos or anything to remind you of what it all looks like  and how it all sounds  so then what happens next ?

What happens next is when you do come back  from where else you  have been  you find that so much has changed you are in amazement  as to what happened , the longer you have been away the  more things have changed  and now you see  what you should have done before you left to keep those memories alive . I have blogged about this before  in a blog  I called” Who am I where am I ?”  So like me when I came back from overseas   you look at the place you left and really expected  to be the same as you left it and stand in wonder  about what happened  and why  ? Little things and big things  have changed , the way people now treat you ,the way businesses  do their business  now, even the  TV you used to watch , almost everything is now changed    and you are left wondering.

You can never really know  how much things will change but  that does not mean we have to like it as a lot  of the changes that happen are not  good , just look at how the violence  has gotten out of control now , and how little people even give a damn, as long as they have what they want that is all that matters. While you were away there could have been an earthquake or floods or fire or famine  or anything to make all those changes  or maybe just something simple  like a store  closing down or being sold  or something similar can change the whole place making it so different you you do wish you had taken photos before you left.

You can never really know about people either  what changes happen in them  while you were away ,they too change even if they don’t want to , things happen to make them change and when they do their whole attitude to you and everyone else will change , we cannot  stay the same when things change so much in us and around us . People who were carefree and happy and  wanting to help suddenly become quiet and keep to themselves , the outgoing part of them has been subdued  and they are only a touch of the people they once were . Changes  in situations means changes  in people  and no matter how much we want to stay the same we do not have much choice if the changes are bad enough or good enough  either way will cause changes.

Saying all this you have to realise that change is inevitable  but how we handle it is what is important , how you deal with what life throws at you  is what either makes you stronger or you let it get to you . Making you stronger is what we need to try and do and not let the negative  part of it get to you , this part is not easy , trust me it is hard but it can be done if you try hard enough . Changing your whole life and where you live and how you do things can be very , very hard  but again you can do it if you care enough  about yourself and your husband  and you both pull together . Takes all sorts of courage and all the hope you can muster but again it is possible .

You can never know either about how much even the government of the country will change while you were away , things that were against the law when you  left now are allowed and that can not always be good . Example is when you leave it was against the law to let children under the age of 15 into and pubs  or clubs , or any place  that had alcohol or gaming machines , now you can barely find a place  to have a quiet night out because they all allow young children in and the parents  do not seem to care  one bit about the noise they make . That law of not letting them in was great you could always have a nice quiet night out with your husband anytime you wanted , now it is hopeless most of the time. One can only hope that one day someone will see  this and make a few places to go to that you can have a nice quiet dinner in and enjoy it , and not have to either give up or leave early .

You can never know about anything really  you just have to gird  your loins and as they say in the classics ” pull up your big girls pants ”  and get on with life and do your best  to do the right thing by yourself and others . Maybe it is the hardest thing you will ever have to do but you do have the strength in you to do it , to make it happen . There are just so many things  you can never really know about  it would take forever to note them all down  so let’s not worry about them and take each day one at a time and do the very best we can to make it better for us and those around us , that is what I plan to do anyway.

My husband called me lazy the other day.I was so annoyed I almost responded….

🤔…. I am suspicious that I am up to something I don’t want myself to know about.