Nimby …. To put it another way  .. Not In My Backyard ….. I do not think there is a single person out there who  hears  about all the terrible things  going on in the world  who does not do  1 of 2 things  when they see even more of the evil  that is going on.  1 .They say how awful it  is  and  feel  terrible , that lasts for all of 5 minutes and then ..2. We wish with all our hearts that it does not happen  near us , not even within a mile or 2  . It is not that we are heartless or cruel  it is just that we think  we would not be able to handle anything  of that nature  , but I think we vastly underestimate ourselves  we can do more than we think we can . When something like that happens  we also withdraw into ourselves  a little bit  because that makes  us feel that little bit more secure  for the time being we fool ourselves into thinking that will make us safer .

When something that bad and that evil happens and we find out just how much damage  is done, how many have been  killed  the mind just has trouble  processing it  so we revert  to the  Nimby  and that makes us feel safer a tiny bit  , it is the only  way the brain can handle so  much evil and not flip out . Well face it what would happen to us  if we did not have a safety  catch so to speak ? Let’s face it  the average normal mind can only take so much  pressure before it explodes and wants to quit, it has to have a safety switch like a lot of things we make today   no safety  switch  no mind . While it is the mind that imagines  so much be it good or evil  it also has it’s limits  and needs a safety  switch. Hospitals these days are full of people who for 1 reason or another  could or would not activate the switch .

Some people  though have trained their brains  to ignore the switch and become  cruel and evil for whatever  drives them , for whatever they think they will get out of it , and trust me they are so wrong  but there is no stopping them once they go down that route . Having said that we know from all that goes on they  do a  great job and because of that and the fact  they do so much we have now become a nation  of people   who hide behind the  Nimby   protocol . All nations of the world are now into this frame of mind not just 1 all of them , because we are all sick to our hearts  of all the violence   and all killings , so a lot of us now just think Nimby when we hear yet more of these things .

The nations of the world have now changed so much we  have all become almost immune  to what we hear and see  because there is so much it becomes too much to process in the brain so we have invented an escape for the brain in an effort  to save it . More and more as time goes on we will all become like this and the whole problem is it is not the way to go , we need  to try and ignore the safety  zones  and try to make our brains stop hiding  so these things can be handled . We all need to be able to handle bad things as  everyday there is something else  we have to see and hear , and trying to hide from it will not help anyone  and  surely we will not just sit by and watch  rather than help where we can ?

Almost all people now just look , think Nimby , then go about their  daily business and  pretend it is not something they need to worry about , it wont happen to them  if they pretend it  has nothing to  do with them  and here we have Nimby  in full flight . This sort of thinking now is world wide and is why people who should be helping to stem the tide  and doing what they can to try and stop the violence . While I know that it is probably  impossible now  for the average person to do anything much  to help , this same kind of thinking also infects the people  who are supposed to be doing something about it .Trouble is now we have seen so much of it and heard so much we now try to just close it out altogether  as it just becomes too much to handle . The mind is becoming number and number all the time  , the more we see the more we just numb the  brain down  so it will not give up on us .

While it is essential to protect ourselves  we also need ways to learn to keep ourselves safe  while training the brain  not  to freak out  and to learn how  to find ways to protect us and our loved ones . This is never going to be easy but we can do it if we try  and while  the world is heading in a direction  we do not like  we have to learn how to cope with whatever gets thrown at us  and going down the path of  Nimby  is not the way to go.

I’m unable to sensible advise, would a sarcastic comment do?

How come glue never sticks to the inside of the tube?


Labels … Why ?

Labels …why  ? ..Why is it that we label everything in our minds and in our lives  ? Why do we see something and  automatically  add a label to it ? Can we not as supposedly mature adults  see something or someone and not right away subconsciously  add a label  to it ? Whether  it is right  or  wrong  the label gets attached  and that is the end of it , and nothing takes away that label once it is there , for instance we  see an ambulance and right away  mind says ok someone in trouble , all is ok label  attached  all is well.  There are so many things  we add labels too that I do not think I have the room, time , or effort to cover them all , lol, be here all day  and that is not on lol .

As well as things we stick labels on people  and this is 1 part of our incessant labelling of things  that I really hate as more often than not we are so very wrong in our judgement and yes labelling is a judgement  look at her she is so skinny she needs to eat more , and the truth is maybe she does  eat but is 1 of the ones that can never put on weight ( lucky ducks  ) The opposite is when we see someone over weight  we automatically think shes fat  must eat like a pig and never move off her fat bum. This too can be so wrong as I myself have a thyroid problem that I just cannot beat and nothing I do moves it . This then is true of so many people and not just women men have thyroid problems too and also get labeled  as just a fattie . We seem to be so ready to judge without even knowing the person or their history or background .

Now we come to labeling of the food and other goods we buy , now this sort of labeling is very necessary  as we need to know what we are buying , if it is food  we must know what is in the food , anything to prevent allergies  as again I myself have suffered  terribly because something was in something  I ate but not on the label  which would have prevented me from even buying it much less eating it had  I known it was in there  . We also need the right labelling to be on so many things to prevent  disaster , like medicines  of all kind  and even car parts , get the wrong part and just watch the damage , it will be noisy  and expensive to then re-fix. labelling of almost everything  …except people very , very necessary . Just wish some people would either stop labelling people altogether or keep their judgements to themselves as they can be very hurtful .

Other types of labeling are for when we  fill up the freezer , other wise how will we know just what is in each bag, box or container , right hubby dear  ? lol  We were going to have a meat pie for a  meal and he had said it’s ok we do not need to label these  we know which ones they are , so ok pie taken out  and left to thaw . Sometime later  come to re-heat  pie  and… what was it  ? An apple pie …now what was it you said dear ? We will know the one we want ? No need to label these ones  ? hehehehehe  Wrong dear …but  I still love ya …just …next time let’s just put a label on before  I label you ….:P

Another thing we label all the time is music , there is country , rock , rhythm & blues , etc etc etc , but  the worst of the labels is the ones we call ” ear worms  ”  man I hate it when I get 1 of those because it takes hours to get rid of the thing even if it is a song  I love , after all it does get to the stage where it is a case of yes , ok, know it now, please stop it  ..When we get to this stage though the ear worm has been there  way too long and it is time to get rid of it . There is a category  too we do not think of too much but is nevertheless  a true 1 it is the ” Haves & Have nots ”  while we try not to admit this to ourselves it is also very true and we all at 1 point or another  we look at someone and right away know they either have everything or have nothing or somewhere in  the middle .

So how do we stop this incessant need to label everything ? How do we stop and try to be more thoughtful and more caring ? This labelling has been going on for so many years  I sincerely  think now there is no way to stop doing it  , even though you can see by a persons face sometimes  just what they have labelled you . The look they get on their faces , the way the look goes up and down you and you know right away they have labelled you , right or wrong the label is there . People do not seem to know how to hide their feelings or do not care that  they may be  wrongfully labelling and therefore  hurting someone. Society these days has changed so much that almost no one  has the manners to keep these things to themselves and it is a real shame ..

Keep the dream alive, hit the snooze button.!!

Hi, I haven’t seen you since the last time I saw you!!


Songs ….or as sometimes  we know them  as ear worms , how many times have we heard a song and  ” bang ” just like that it is stuck in our heads and we  sing it over and over again in our heads . Sometimes the songs are great numbers we love so it does not matter  but mostly they are annoying  and  they may even be just a little ditty but  the fact is once inside the head there they stay for who knows how long . Some of the worst ones  as  I see it are advertising jingles , some of them are so irritating you just want  to shoot someone . the more we try to stop it the more it stays there and it seems  that it takes very little  to start it off again once  we do manage to shake it off .They  can last in your head for hours and even sometimes  you can go to bed and when you get up ” bingo ” there it is again ..

Amongst the worst songs in my mind are the ones  that I consider  not real songs  as they are just weird , take the so called song  Watch Me I think that’s it’s name  it gets stuck in your head so dam quickly  it is unreal  with it’s  lines and some words just repeated and repeated  over and over till you get dizzy . Sung by Silento  my poor hubby hates it , so if he annoys me once too often I play it to him , lol , he knows he’s in the crap then , and yes I have it to hand all the time lol  not because  I like it but to play if he  is too big a pest .lol.So now all I have to do is mention  the phrase ” watch me ” and the speed he shuts up is remarkable  would break a speed record I think  lol , anyway it’s a last resort so if I do play it he has asked for it  , it is self inflicted …lol a bit like me really I am 1 of his self inflicted things too , he is a silly bugger at times …..errr all the time ..typical male in other words  never know when to shut up sometimes , guess that’s why we love em ..

Anyway getting back to these songs , some are just great as  I mentioned before but others very annoying and as yet I have not been able to find anyone  who knows how to stop them  once they start . The other annoying thing is that all the advertising companies now know how easy it is to start  these things  so  try to make sure the jingles attached  to their products  are the sort that will stick and become ear worms. They achieve  this  and they then know they have won and that people  know  their products  will get more attention  than just an ordinary advert  and unfortunately  they are right .  All you have to do  is think back a few years and start thinking about all the little ditties stuck in your head ,everything from cars to food, to drink, to houses , etc, etc. See how easy it is ? Some of the ditties we can still think of  are from many years  back and yet we still remember them  just as though we heard them yesterday  for the 1st time , sneaky huh ?

Whoever thought up the idea of making  songs into ear worms  needs  either  a good kick up the bum  or a medal   not sure which  yet …lol but whatever  he did it and we all get driven nuts  by them no matter who we are or how old we are or whatever we do . These ear worms are so annoying  but they work so well  it does the head in just trying to find ways to ignore them . They  may not be alive in that sense  of the word  but they sure seem to be  and they seem to breed as more and more people seem to get affected  by them all over the world , so it is very easy to think they are  alive in their own right . Anyway  even if they do not have real life they sure have a life of their own So either  a pest or a genius the inventor of ear worms  should get something  …

Beauty comes in all shapes & sizes. Small, large, circle, square, thin crust, thick crust, stuffed crust, extra toppings.

I woke up feeling strange this morning…I felt Rested and Relaxed so I immediately Googled my symptoms. Turns out I had a ‘Sleep in’ Apparently it’s not harmful but may be addictive. . .

Passes And Pins

Passes and pins  …is that anything like needles and pins I hear you ask ? The answer is yes very much so as they can hurt you just as much as someone sticking a pin or a needle in you  . Think about the last time you  needed  and  I really mean needed  to get onto a bank account  or something  equally  as important and all of a sudden you cannot remember that  damm password  or failing that the pin number , now what do you do ? In most cases you get in a muck sweat  and start searching all over the place  to see where you put the written copy of all your passes and pins  and  I am sure  most people do the same thing  so that they have a back up set  and yes sometimes we lose even those .* sheeesh *

These  days you need passes  and pins for almost everything  no matter what you do these days you are confronted with either ” please enter your pin ” or in some cases “please enter your pass ”  so  1 way or another we need a pass or a pin for almost everything  so  writing it down seems like a good idea  until you need to find what you wrote it down on. Trouble now emerges as since you probably  have not only forgotten what you wrote  it in  but you also cannot remember  where on earth it is now ….arrrgghhh … Now you go into a right state trying to remember the pin or the pass you need , but the more you try to remember them  the more impossible it is and you just want to kick someone or something will not help but will make you feel better  but will not find what you need .

Passes and pins needed for almost everything we need these days but how? when? where? and why? did all this come about  ? Why did we suddenly decide that we needed this in our lives  ? When in actual fact we probably  could have been quite ok without it all. Who exactly decided to add this complication to a life that before the pins and passes happened  was getting complicated  enough as it was . Let’s face it  we could go  ok with 1 or maybe 2 pins and passes  but  as many as we now have  ? Why  did  it suddenly  become  necessary  to add these damm passes and pins  to more and more things ? Now  there are  pins and passes  added to almost everything  and it adds  just more frustration to  everything. This also applies to all the plastic cards  we have to have now , lol, how many do you have  ?

Why so many pins and passes ? I will tell you why , because as we get more and more technical in everything we do , we open ourselves up to more and more crooks who will rob us blind if we do not protect ourselves and pins and passes  are the way we have to do it. It does not matter how much grief these pins and passes cause us we need them and it is just bad luck if we have to change them or if we forget them  it is how it is nowadays . The urge to be  ” up with the best ”  means we also put ourselves in more and more stress positions trying to keep up with pins and passes  so we can get into our own things. Until we learn to remember better or find a safe place that we will not forget  we just have  to put up with the occasional times of frustration  when we need to change  them.

Right then , so as we see yes, passes and pins are exactly like needles and pins and can hurt you just as much , sometimes no matter how hard we try  to keep things in order .Sometimes I think I would rather have a needle or 2 than trying to have to cope with all these  passes and pins , but sadly that will not happen either  so if we lose a pass or a pin  we just have to suck it up and go through all the crap to reset  them no matter how frustrating  it all is  it has to be done to protect ourselves. Also yes  I know there will always be bad buggers out there who will try to crack them  but  we just have to learn to be more careful and cope with it . Unless we want to sit back and let whoever get at our private things we just have to try and give up.

Men are Stupid and Women are Crazy. And the reason why Women are Crazy, is because Men are Stupid!

My husband and I never argue except on where to holiday. I wanna go to the beach and he always wants to come with me…

Did You Know ??

Did you know  ? …..Did you know there are a lot of things you really don’t know ? Did you know that the more you think you know the less you actually do know  ? Did you know that the more you try to know the harder it becomes to actually know things  ? Did you know you can drive yourself mad trying just to know more  ? Did you know that the more things you think you need to know the less things you really do need to know? Did you know that the more you try to know the more you cram in your thick skull  the more you are actually pushing out  ? Did you know that if you keep going like this eventually you will either know everything  ( impossible ) or know nothing at all ( more likely ) ….

Now if that hasn’t confused you enough let’s try this and see how many of these things you have already done but refuse to admit that you have  so no one knows what a drip  you have actually been …lol.. Did you know that no matter how hard you push a door if it is marked pull you will never get it to open ? Did you know that if you want to make a cup of coffee  then you really do  need to get a cup, take it to the coffee , put coffee in , then take it to  hot water and pour it in ? Did you know that no amount of  glaring  at something will not make it change it’s position  and that if you want it to be gone  you either have to get off your butt and move it or move yourself so you cannot see it  ? Did you know that no amount of wishing  someone else will do it will get anything done for you , you have to either ask nicely ( or not )  or do the dam dishes yourself   as no one else will do them unless you threaten them ? …lol ….so true  .. it is always the dishes no one  wants to do .

Did you know  that when watching your favourite sport on TV that no amount of yelling at the screen  will make your team perform well  as they cannot hear you ? Did you know that no amount of telling the adds to shut up will make them shut up and that if you want them to shut up you will have to turn the  TV off as that is the only way to shut them up ? Did you know  that when you wish to use an appliance  that you actually have to turn it on  as  that is the only way said appliance will do whatever it is designed to do ? Did you know  that the longer you sit on the need to go and have a pee break the worse you make it  as it gets to the position that  you will have a lot of trouble if you don’t stop sitting on it ? …..stops for a pee break ….lol…be right back …..

Right  now where were we ? Oh yes  now did you know that while  I was away not 1 more word got typed because this silly thing didn’t  typo any for me I have to do  it myself ? Did you know that none of these inanimate  objects we surround ourselves with will do a single thing unless we make them do it  no matter how smart they are supposed to be  ? Did you know that sometimes these things go wrong and even then still will not do what we built them for  and we will have to get them fixed or replace them ? Did you know that in order to get said objects fixed or repaired we will once more have to get up off our butts  and do something about it  ? ….damm …lol..Did you know we have way too many said objects and that we really should get off our butts more as it is not good for us to be lazy ?

Did you know that when you go shopping you actually have to read the labels , make sure it is what you want/need  and even if you shop online you still have to read labels of products etc.? Did you know that if you cannot read very well you can get into a lot of trouble , but even if you can read sometimes you wish you couldn’t  as somethings are better not read  ? Did you know that after reading all this you probably wish you hadn’t bothered because  you really didn’t want or need to know any  of this   and that you have just wasted  a lot of time checking to see if you read it right  ? ….lol yes you did  …good aint it  ??  Did you know that even though you spent time reading and trying to work it all out there was some point in it all when you had a giggle and had to admit yes you too have done some of these  ?

Did you know that there are so many more of these that I could sit here all day and  find even more ” did you know ”  things that we all do know but do not bother to think about ? Did you know that by now you have thought of a lot of other things by now yourself just reading this ??? lol …my work here is done ……

Have you ever make fun of someone so much that you think you should thank them for all the good times you’ve had?


Most people won’t admit their faults, I would if I had any, but I don’t so I wont…

Where Is That Noise ?

Where is that noise  ? ….. I would love to know how many times , or had a $  for every time a noise has caught my attention , 1 that just does not seem to fit in with the usual noises  . A  noise that  by the mere fact  that it is not  the same as all the other noises you are so used to makes you edgy , nervous ,  wanting to  find it and either fix it or at least  know that it is a harmless  noise and not 1 that needs to be worried about . Let’s face  it  strange noises even if they are harmless do tend to make out hair stand up ( if we have any lol ) and until we investigate  and sort out said noise we will not be able to relax .

The mind even though it is a remarkable thing can also be a damm torment , it will play out every single  harmful , yes harmful as that is what the mind does  , scenario that is causing that noise . That noise that does not go with  the usual noises  , What is it ? Will it hurt me ? Will it hurt my family? Will it hurt my house  ? These are the things the mind starts on and it will not stop until you have tracked down the noise and what is making it , no matter how many times you tell it to shut up it will not . Will not stop annoying you until you know just what the noise is and what harm , if any it can or cannot cause.

Strangely enough you will fine that 99%  of the time the noise will be something completely innocent ,  the wind banging a door or a window , a cat jumping  in a window or knocking something off a table or bench , a dog  playing with something , there are just so many things that can make noises you do not expect  but are completely harmless . Along these lines  I am very sure you can think of a ton more noises that seem to come out of nowhere  and either make you jump or make you laugh or something . Whatever the reason for the noise the crazy part of your brain will not let it rest until it knows just what is going on , will keep nagging you until you find out about it . The worst part being that it just will not stop until noise is sorted  and men , yes you men are just as bad as women in the need to find out what and where it is .

As for the  maybe 1% of times when the noise needs fixing right away  well that can also be anything  but for once the crazy brain is right to want to find it and fix it . Maybe a snake has crawled into  your laundry , lol don’t laugh it can happen here  that is why we have snake catchers , or maybe some  other animal or bird has managed to sneak in where it is not supposed to be , or  maybe an electrical fault has caused a fire . Both ideas are extreme  yes but  I use them to show how crazy our brains can be  when it comes to noises it does not like or understand . So unless you wish to go right round the twist  you have to get off your butt  and go investigate  no matter how  much you do not want to  move  or have the crazy brain  rattle  away at you  until you do .

The very worst time to hear these noises is at night , late at night , because it is dark so you cannot see  outside what may be making the noise  and that makes it worse .When you  go to bed is to my mind  the very worst time , you get into bed , you are just dozing off and then it happens ! Yikes now what  ? How are you supposed to get to sleep when you have no idea where the noise is even , let alone how to fix it  , so off goes the crazy brain in it’s endless circles  leaving you lying there wondering what will happen next ……Don’t you just love it ? lol … you have to love the brain really of all the things it gets itself  in a tangle over a strange noise is the worst …..BANG!  …lol Try going to sleep after  an exhaust backfire  just as you are dropping off to sleep ….


I think once we get past the restraining orders and the court dates and the stalking charges, we can really make this relationship work..

“Where do you want this big roll of bubble wrap?” I asked my boss.
“Just pop it in the corner,” he said.
It took me three hours….

Lights ..On or Off

Lights on or off  ? Now as far as  I am aware this is a subject that divides men and women  almost equally , some like to turn them off when finished with and some like them  left on in some instances so they don’t have the arduous  task of turning them back on again , must be difficult  for some people really  how much energy would it take to turn a light off honestly ? It seems though  for many years there is this argument  to turn off or not to turn off ? Before you  laugh  too hard this is a serious question  to some people  , it can cause  friction if either the husband or the wife  leaves it on and they  shouldn’t seems silly to some people to  argue over something this silly  but trust me  some couples do .

I am sure you all know that marriages  can be in trouble sometimes over the silliest things  and this is 1 of those silly things .Totally amazing to me is that things this small can cause  all sorts of trouble , I mean really ? What difference can it make light on or off  except  for when going to sleep or going out ? How can something this trivial  cause so much  trouble ? I mean we are supposed to  A be in love, B be adults , C setting a good example to kids , and other things yet we get our knickers in a knot over a light either not turned off or 1 that is  turned off  …sheeesh   ya can’t win sometimes with people . wonder if it’s even possible ? lol  dunno about that .Seriously though  woman leaves a room turns light off to save  power , hubby comes in turns light back on , finishes what he  is doing  walks out leaves light on…uh oh …wife comes back sees light left on turns it off , goes crook  at hubby and here we have another argument ….see how easy it is to start a fight  ?

Seriously though can leaving  a light on during the day  make that much difference  to the power bill ? Does it take more  power to turn it on again  as the power surges back into the light ? I have never quite worked out  yes or no  so maybe some genius   can tell me if so .It is the same as turning a car motor off for a few mins at a stop or letting it idle , does it or doesn’t it use more petrol in a surge when re starting ? So here we have 2 things very similar without  either having a definitive answer so come on you geniuses  work it out and tell me  , it will give you something to do, lol, does it or does it not  save power to turn off , then re start   or better to leave it on ?

Now  take my husband  ( please  ) lol he is a terror for leaving all the lights on no matter what room he is in , if he is home long enough  at a time  I find myself running round behind  him turning lights off all day . Somedays  I just want to kick his bum get so sick of lights on all over the house , all I can think of is the money for the power bill , but he doesn’t  seem  worried at all but  I worry because  I have to balance the books . Whenever we talk about this  he just says  ” yes dear ”  and all is well for about ohhh  maybe 5 mins  lol  then he’s back to what he calls normal , lol normal ? him ? nahh never going to happen , hasn’t yet   so  not holding my breath anytime soon  lol  ( sorry dear )  no not really   you drive me nuts with  this   lol .


My husband said he wanted to see the world, so I bought him an atlas.

If the average person walks about 900 miles a year and on average drinks 22 gallons of alcohol a year. That means that, the average person gets 41 miles to the gallon….